I’ve heard lots of conversations about 5G. There is always a sense of “nothing I can do about it, what can I do about it?” when Society is confronted with owning up to wrongs.

Standing up to bullies and greed will always seem impossible because we don’t stand up. If slavery (of all eras) and its mindset was not stood up to, many humans would still be property and not given human status. to make an impact if change. Greed will always appear to be bigger than equality. Injustice will always appear to be more powerful than righteousness. Both are manifested to be true by silence or false by inaction..

Change overthrow greed and injustice when a brave few morphs into a brave multitude, that evolves into a brave Society that says “No greed! No injustice. Enough is enough”.

There are the wealthy that have the money and access to already afford their seat to Planet B. Frozen samples for new humanity and designated ones who are “fit” and neccessary to take along. They are content that there is no Planet be for us for everyone. They sit in their wealth, accumulated from the 99, with arrogance and contempt for “the weak”. It’s the survival of the fitness, concrete jungle, hunger games mindset that they live by. When are we going to stop the beast of consumerism from destroying us to profit it? When are we going to starve the beast? When are the 99 going to stop being social eengineering projects for the 1? When will the oppressed breaking free from their stockholm syndromes?

We are buying what they’re selling. We line up and pre-order for the “latest this, and that, to “stay relevant”, really? How “relevant” will you or the importance of being relevant be when being relevant is no longer relevant? Or being needed to buy from them is no longer neccessary to them, Wake up people…Lady O❤💜

Grand Rising, Powerful morning & Purposeful Day.

I was raped in my 40’s by a once trusted friend.

Did I try to erase the event then in ways that now many would accuse me of being a liar, yes. Why did you continue to be his friend? Why would you still plan playdate with between the kids? Why would you still go and visit his Mom while he was still living their? Why would you still take lunches for him? Etc. Why? One reason is because when a violation at that level occurs, it most times produces a shock to the world as you thought you knew it and what you believed in, facing realities or doing what others is expecting is not always a logical 1,2,3.

As I confronted him, I looked for evidence that he was remorseful. I wanted deeply to believe that my close friend could not intentionally premeditated this assault. I also didn’t want to believe that I was that stupid to not believe the signs of grooming, of a player. I didn’t want to admit that I was played, again. Did I remain friends thereafter, yes. Did I report him to police, no. I was concerned for the implications of his access to his 3 children which was already in conflict at the time.

I accepted that this friend was intentional in his actions afterward he offered us drinks again while at his Mom’s home. The rape occurred after he was drinking at a wedding we both attended and I was the designated driver and he was the MC. I regretted changing my mind not to attend. It was a very late decision to accept his repeated invitation to assist him with MCing. His Sister, Mom and Sister’s husband repeated query should have also been ignored and follow my gutt to not go.

It was a friendship that at the time I trusted wholeheartedly. Our friendship was a best friend status as we called each other. To the point that everyone expected to always see one of us when you see the other. Our kids were also at the same age, scary too that birthdays were same months, two of our kids were days difference. So yeah, birthday parties, martial arts, movies and kids outings were coordinated. I was on one of his daughter’s pick-up for school and he, and his Mom were on my kids pick-up for their school and our kids did sleep overs at each other homes. So, yes, that was the level of trust we both had for each other.

After being highly intoxicated and being the last to close the wedding hall, the decision was to leave my best friend out of town, with some female that was very willing share her 1 bed hotel room with my best friend. Yeah, I said no. Not only does that go against designated driver expectations but best friend protocol; you come together, you leave together. I wasn’t about to put him infront of that wreck waiting to happen. A drunk black male in a hotel room with a female who isn’t as drunk as him, right. Find another target I thought as I got assistance to get him in my car to make the trip back to Toronto.

After swearing to stop drinking because of his disgust with his actions when I confronted him about his behavior when he drinks alcohol and the rape. Offering us drinks after the rape was a disregard for my safety and condoning his actions. I stopped being his friend when I realised that our friendship was one sided. I began towards moving to my suspicions that all this time, gaining my trust was his ultimate intentions when he began wanting to be my friend. It began being more clear, when he began throwing shade on our friendship when I refused to drink around him and when I began to intentionally remain on the main floor of his Mother’s home when he was home and check-in on his Mom only when he wasn’t around. He didn’t react to caring about maintaining the friendship. I realised that the sex he forced was not an accident due to his alcohol, he fully was aware. When he asked me later if I enjoyed it as to separate the violation and the sex, not wanting the rape to seem terrible if I got value somehow by enjoying the sex, then the event would be downgraded. I ended the friendship and he ended the relationship between our kids. So this was never about our kids either, it was about him.

Coming out of a divorce and never having relations before, during or after my marriage, I realised that was the challenge for him. His intention was to have a friend with benefits and when that was not going to occur, all his deceptions came out by force. He was never in our friendship with good intentions.

Matt Lauer wanting to deflect and his victim blame comments, that I’m sure Brook Nevil has experienced are typical and that’s why MANY women remain silent.

It is cut & dry. No means no.

A victim’s reaction or actions after a violation is not what up question or analysis to downgrade the violation or uphold it. The only question is; at the time of incident, did you hear “no” or “stop”?

I encourage more victims to tell their stories. No shame. No blame. No make wrongs. When we do so we expose predators and release victims.

If by some chance you have been a victim of blind trust that resulted in rape, please know that you are not alone. There are more for you than against you…Lady O ❤💜

What is the definition of insanity? What is the definition of distraction?

Rosa sat, Martin walked in protest, using at the time the most effective way to connect to the humanity, the conscience of a mindset. They also had other plans to force a mindset shift inside their community and outside in society.

Any other way, would have killed her, and when Martin was about to speak on the other ways, they killed him. The idea of pleading to “a superior race” in 2019 still baffles me. To do so or to even suggest by promoting any suggestion of doing so aka protesting, says 1 thing; that you (mindset) support the fact that there is “a superior race”.

Systems that protect and reinforce and laws that protect and reinforce, are in place because you in fact believe that there is “an inferior race”.

Years after Rosa, later after Martin, the sons, fathers, mothers and grandmothers of the “inferior race” are being executed, our teens heads are being smashed to the concrete, violently beaten, murdered in front of their children, all for being a person of colour aka inferior race in 2019 and you share Rosa sitting on her bus? What exactly are you trying to tell us? What message are you wanting to reinforce? Protesting?

Protesting still reinforces that another race is superior and that We are asking permission aka begging for that superior race to “please change your views about us”, please change how you treat us.

Protesting reinforces that We are at the mercy of that “superior race”. They continue to use violence and continue to encourage us to sit, protest and wait for them to respect and hold high, the value of our lives to there’s.

You keep reminding us of how far we have gotten, really? We are to celebrate that you no longer, hang, rape, beat, mutilate, murder, spit, burn, tar&feather us while psychologically and economically cripple any efforts of us being truly self sufficient. Oh, ok.

Rosa & Martin also spoke on other ways that we as a people ought to perform non-violence acts of enforcing change, and it was not just to sit & march. Funny, mass media doesn’t print or broadcast those other ways. You are selective in promoting the ways that encourage being passive while you continue your atrocities.

The open attack has not stopped, the manipulation has not stopped, and the distractions that are placed to subdue change and awaken have not stopped.

If we want change, we have to stop our insanity and change, open our eyes and not be easily distracted. You are inside my community & outside in society. I see you…Lady O ❤💜 #StillSmiling #not2day #opaday #HeGotYou #GraceAndEase #YouAreNotAlone #Comeunity #LoveYourself #LadyO

There are many factors to the many stories of Mothers whose children are taken and killed. Anger & Hate operate on low vibrations. When we, as humanity begin to Awaken out of our silos to how we are feeding anger, hate & pain with our thoughts, words and silence, we’ll begin to catch what others have been saying from the beginning of time; ALL things are connected.

When you touch one factor with truth, light and love, low vibrations in other factors will be affected. They WILL not be eliminated by just wishful thinking, we have to be intentional about. Pain is pain, no matter the circumstances or the faces attached to the story. The mindset of not talking about people’s pain will someone make it disappear is reckless. To make anyone feel that no one cares about their pain is reckless.

I feel for all Mothers whose child is murdered. I feel for all Mothers who are living one day at a time, being the better person in a toxic, co-parent relationship. I feel for mothers who have a legal system that is not in the best interest of children. I feel for all Mothers who relive the last moment they spoke to their child. I feel for all Mothers who has to craw her way out of the valley of sorrow, depression, anger, pain, numbness of feelings and thoughts of their child last emotion. The process of being a Mother is deeper than mere Science.

I did a post on my Facebook page a few days before our Valentine’s horror and heartbreak of 11 year old Riya. My post was about the horrific death of a child by means of execution. His Mother’s anguish is in the atmosphere of air we breath.

I am not surprised that there are reports of people who complained of the Amber Alert coming to their phones at an inconvenienced time. They were upset that their calm environment was disturbed. Trust me, as I said, many live in silos. Equally so, I am not surprised that some are using this time to launch campaigns on our emotions. I shake my head.

When our actions and thoughts begin to pause to feel for ALL, when we begin to serve notice to low vibrations that enough is enough, when we begin to do our Mirror Work, then and only then will the factors be addressed. Until then and as we speak with 2 mouths, low vibrations don’t take us seriously.

Those who are Awaken, truly awaken who speak with 1, we are few in numbers so change is slow or silenced. We are not inconvienced anytime with Amber Alerts and we will continue to send out our alarms for Awakenings…Lady O ❤💜 #RIPriya #comeunity #graceandease #hegotyou #MirrorWork #Mother2Mother

I stand in solidarity with Francisca Mandeya’s Facebook post. If “black” it’s just a colour that is used for the description of my skin colour, then I am brown, not black.

Black is a description that was imposed from slavery to describe a supposed mindset that they say I have. A mentality that formed preconceived notions and conclusions about me, my community, my potential, our potential, my capabilities, our capabilities, my predisposition and our predisposition.

“Less than”, “not equal to”, “helpless”, “inferior”, “academic limitations”, “unmanageable” “unmanufactured” and “uncultured” are some of what being “black” comes with. So much so that I am not a “real black” or “black enough” to many in my community. If my vocabulary is grammatically correct in the British standard of Annunciation and in writing, I am not black, I am an Uncle Tom. If I quote Aristotle, Socrates and Pestalozzi, if I don’t accept a lack mindset, I am your competition, not your Sister. If I have an abundant mindset I am not black, I am a threat. If I dress half naked, I am black. If I rock my real hair, real nails, real eyes, real eyelashes, I am too black. If I don’t skin- out on the dance floor, I am not true black. If I didn’t live IN the ghetto, I am not that black. I am not black for you, and I am not black enough for them.

If it is said, “there she (they) go being sensitive, it’s just to describe your colour”, then I am brown, not black. The Funny thing is, the brown is offended if I say I am brown, for my colour to be identified as theirs. They own the rights, registered trademark to brown and what it represents; it’s not mine – copyright infringement.

The brown wants me to stay black, not brown. Why? Is it because there is an indoctrination of a stereotype about “black” that even the “brown” does not want us to partake of or fear to be mixed with? All my children have been exposed to Brown Vs Black racism from their peers, and my youngest is in grade 4. “Stay black, because if you are us, then who’s going to be you”?. Who’s going to remain the bar of inferiority?

Are we brilliant beings sending rockets into space, building hotels under water and artificial intelligence? Inventing instruments, eyes that are seeing beneath the skin, into the cellular level. Intelligent enough to create disease, addictions and also their cures. Our ability to make intelligent observations are evident. I AM not black. MY SKIN is brown…Lady O❤💜 #StillSmiling #comeunity #not2day #nowwhat #graceandease

Trusting that you arose with Power & Victory, a pep in your step. I’m in my devotional time and wanted to remind you that you are not alone (positive & negative).

Positive, in that, you have positive energies; the comforter and Yahweh’s promise rich in your mouth, powerful on your tongue and confident in your heart, so you are not alone.

Negative, in that, opposing energies will continue to present themselves to steal what is in your mouth, kill what is on your tongue and destroy what is in your heart, so you are not alone.

Neither one is new concepts to us. The word for you is “Be transformed with the renewal of your mind” and “Be separate from negative as positive is separate from negative”. Continue to stay and stand firm in complete truth of who you are. Apply all wise instructions to your daily goings and comings. Stay clear of and avoid anything (including thoughts) that are negative so that nothing becomes a stumbling block to hinder or delay the work that has already begun in you and for you.

The enemy of negative thoughts that comes against our joys, peace and breakthroughs, would want to prevent you from the promises for you, for me and for us and its only way is to keep you behind the curtain.

Claim your Victory. Walk in confidence and boldness in your Creator’s instructions and promises. “Be separated from negative energy in all forms as positive is separated from all forms of negative.” Blessings….Stay. Walk. Say…Lady O💖💜 #StillSmiling #opaday #comeunity #Not2Day #HeGotU

I had these entries to upload for some time now. Life gets crazy but you still show up.

Honestly, I was a little confused when I heard about R Kelly. I honestly had to stop and wonder if I was having a “groundhog” moment.

Deep down I thought we all DID already boycott him. We DID already know about his sexual activities with underage girls. Some (not me) DID watch the videos of those acts (heard that they exist).

No word of a lie, it took me days to realise that this was new stuff, a new documentary. Really? Why are we waiting for Hollywood to tell us to have standards? Now we mute him? Uhmm…is it about his actions or is there something more as the catalyst for this timing? I’m just saying. It just doesn’t make sense. Not saying that the outcry and actions being done are not warranted, just wandering the timing. And “is there a time when injustice or atrocities should be addressed”? No. Do I question as to why he has been allowed to continue after all that has been revealed? Yes.

The issue Sis is what I’ve been saying; we get attached to personalities, and our senses are being satisfied that calling wrong, wrong becomes a challenge and backing it up with action even greater. The same goes to the issues, those dark secrets within our families. That’s why I am a respecter of none when the truth has to be told. The truth revealed is truth revealed. Where do you stand on it?

Oppression has taught us to stay quiet, don’t rock the boat, wait for someone to step up and take the bullet. We are still eating from that tree of oppression, and our bodies are getting sicker as we continue to eat from it. When I refer to the word body, I am referring to the family body, the religious body, the community body and our personal body. I did a Facebook Live about my bad experience with incest that was allowed to occur in my family and how loyalty to an image and religion breathes safety for these predictors. My Aunt never left his ass with his previous attempts with my older cousin (found out about that later). No one protected him from me by keeping him in the family. For sure not my Father who left me to live with them to chase after his ego.

R. Kelly no doubt will have a textbook story of neglect and his own sexual abuse story, I smelt it then, and the odour is more putrid now. No doubt the textbook story will include a moment when helplessness became his sentence, and a sense of death came cologne. There will be a bigger monster(s), and we will put a finger as to when that death occurred. Please remember when the textbook is opened that we all recognise that there is a textbook moment when he could have gotten help. It’s that textbook moment when he did come face-to-face with who he has become. However, I am sure he drank the textbook cocktail scenario of fear, shame, responsibility, a splash of pride and a hint of narcissism was his nightcap.

Let me know when his textbook; The Robert Kelly Chronicles is published…Lady O💖💜 #StillSmiling #HeGotU #Not2Day #NowWhat #HeGotYou #opaday

Morning family! Take a pause. I was reflecting all morning on my purpose mission into 2019. We are all wanting to be effective and purpose driven. How many of You want to be effective in your purpose? You want to walk in your mission everyday and to be in a place of calm starting right now. Here is a quick exercise that I created called Quality Control (QC)

(1) Speak Your truth – No blame. No shame. No becauses. No ifs. No buts. Total responsibility.

(2) Asses Your face – Reflect on Your mask. Reflect on Your (true) intentions. Redefine it.

(3) Birth your why – Birth an authentic purpose from Your truth and Your face. Birth an authentic circle of influences – THIS is step that many will find challenging because it WILL require disconnecting from history.

Now each step will require a bold and brave “all in” attitude to get out on the other side, the real you. Each step will be mildly, moderately and extremely uncomfortable.

I have been doing my QC quarterly for years. I apply it in each of my 4 Quality Area (QA); I Am, Relationships (Personal. Professional), Health, Finances. What I find is that my truth determines my face and shapes my why. I began doing this purge when I was at a point in my personal and professional life where I demanded authenticity of myself and those around me. We sometimes have a why about what we do, who we are and those we have around that is from a truth that has not been challenged. How many of you want a why personally and professionally that is a true reflection of your truth and a face that is reflective of that truth?

Have a restful day in your truth.

Stay.Walk.Say…Lady O💖💜 #StillSmiling #HeGotU #Not2Day #NowWhat #HeGotYou #opaday

Listen Women!!…This REAL Talk. Yes you can! Yes it is that easy. It is ” hard” when you go at it alone. There is NO shame in your decision to love or to trust. STOP IT!!. It (the relationship) is not what you thought. Forget about how long you “put into it”. Forget about the “stand by your man” bullshit, don’t get me started on the the “pray and fast” crap that religion guilts you in.

He is not what you thought. She is not what you thought. Yes, I said she. And Your Creator, Yahweh, God, does not approve of his daughter getting beat. Listen, there is no shame in deciding that YOU matter. Leave and let people know. Get help. Get support. Pride is not worth it.

I imagine there might have been some mental chatter. “What would people think”. Listen!!…People’s opinions are irrelevant. Dig deep and tap into our self to stand against the bullshit chatter.

This is soooo dear to me, domestic violence and abuse. I know it all to well on so many levels. These men are cowards. It’s you or your death!. And You will ALWAYS win Boo!…Lady O💖💜 #StillSmiling #HeGotU #Not2Day #NowWhat #HeGotYou #opaday

You never loose. You win or You learn..Nelson Mandela

 

Text: 686868 Canada & 741741 US

http://www.women.gov.on.ca/owd/english/ending-violence/help.shtml

https://settlement.org/ontario/health/family-health/domestic-abuse/where-can-i-get-help-for-domestic-abuse

http://www.awhl.org

https://www.thehotline.org

https://www.ontario.ca/page/lets-stop-sexual-harassment-and-violence

Morning Blog family!!

Beating up ourselves up over the “should’ves”, “could’ves”, “would’ves” when hindsight is in play doesn’t change the outcome that already played itself out.

I remember a time when I did that and kept on beating myself up over a decision that at that time seemed logical, thoughtful, showed loyalty, showed love, showed dedication, showed commitment, was promising, had potential, looked beautiful/ handsome in appearance.

Sometimes we make choices and things didn’t happen the way we hoped. We go through a sense of betrayal, loss, rejection, sadness and disappointment to name a few.

As you move forward into 2019, do not hate yourself because yesterday’s perfect choices turned out to be today’s apparent nightmare. Compare the circumstances and information of then and now. Then make corrective adjustments to improve things for 2019. The rest will fall into place. Go Brave & Lady O💖💜 #StillSmiling #HeGotU #Not2Day #NowWhat #HeGotYou #opaday #WhoRUWhatRU